मनुष्य होने के नाते, हम सब गलती करते हैं। यह सीखने की प्रक्रिया का एक अनिवार्य हिस्सा है। लेकिन क्या आपने कभी सोचा है कि कुछ गलतियाँ ऐसी क्यों होती हैं जिन्हें हम बार-बार दोहराते हैं? ऐसा क्यों होता है कि हम जानते हुए भी, एक ही 'गड्ढे' में फिर से गिर जाते हैं?
गलती दोहराना केवल अज्ञानता का परिणाम नहीं है, बल्कि अक्सर यह हमारे व्यवहार, हमारी भावनाओं और हमारी सोचने की प्रक्रिया से जुड़ा होता है। इस प्रवृत्ति के पीछे कई कारण हो सकते हैं।
1. गलतियों का विश्लेषण न करना
सबसे बड़ी वजह है गलती होने के बाद रुककर सोचना नहीं। हम अक्सर गलती को एक बुरी घटना मानकर उसे जल्दी से भूल जाना चाहते हैं, बजाय इसके कि हम उसके मूल कारण को समझें। यदि हम यह नहीं पहचानेंगे कि हमने क्या गलत किया, तो हम भविष्य में उस परिस्थिति में अलग ढंग से कैसे प्रतिक्रिया देंगे? गलती दोहराने से बचने के लिए, हमें यह पूछना चाहिए:
The specific video you're watching is a segment from one of Dr. Vikas Divyakirti's lectures, where he discusses the subject of self-awareness and understanding one's core nature. Dr Vikas Divyakirti is a highly respected Indian educator who established Drishti IAS, a leading training academy for those aspiring to pass the UPSC civil services exam. Adding to his credentials, he is a former civil servant himself. Beyond his institutional role, he serves as an author and public intellectual with a massive following on YouTube. He uses this platform not just for teaching, but also to promote critical thinking and dialogue ("Culture of Discourses") on a wide range of social, political, and philosophical subjects.
In this clip, Dr. Divyakirti typically explains that to truly understand yourself and your basic personality, you must engage in deep, honest self-reflection rather than just focusing on external achievements or social roles. He often draws on philosophy, literature, and psychology to highlight that personality is complex and multifaceted, comprising:
Innate Nature (Swa-bhav): The inherent tendencies, talents, and temperament you were born with. He suggests that your best work will always align with your Swa-dharma (self-religion or innate duty), which is rooted in your Swa-bhav.
Acquired Personality: The traits developed through upbringing, education, and social exposure. These traits can often conflict with one's innate nature, leading to internal dilemmas.
Emotional Quotient (EQ) and Maturity: Understanding yourself involves recognizing your emotional patterns, triggers, and level of maturity in handling complex situations, which is key to sustained success and peace.
The "Interesting Moments" series compiles these insightful philosophical and motivational discussions from his popular classes.
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